Singles trying to find a new partner are more finicky than Sherlock Holmes on the first date and the subsequent dating phase. They pay attention to anything that might be a warning sign. Many people find ten behaviors particularly terrifying.
With common sense, without the rose-colored glasses that cloud everything, and a little experience, dating becomes easier. If you want to find a partner for life, you usually have to torment yourself through a large number of first dates and getting to know each other and certainly accept one or the other disappointment.
But so that you can separate the wheat from the chaff at an early stage and not invest too much unnecessary time in the wrong person, the dating platform “ElitePartner” commissioned a study that lists the ten worst red flags (the latest word in the Dating language for warning signals) specifically summarized. For the study, 2,058 singles between the ages of 18 and 69 were interviewed.
The clear winner of the top ten list is above all the constant whining and complaining. If such behavior is recognized in the other person while they are getting to know each other, almost half of all singles are turned off.
First date and getting to know each other: These ten behaviors should definitely be avoided
- Complaints and whining (45 percent put this off)
- Frequent mention of ex-partner (40 percent)
- Rarely reporting themselves (38 percent)
- Common misunderstandings (38 percent)
- Personal criticism, devaluation (35 percent)
- Erratic behavior (35 percent)
- No introduction to family/friends (30 percent)
- Rarely suggest meetings (29 percent)
- Talk little about thoughts and feelings (27 percent)
- Planning trips/holidays with others (27 percent)
The study also revealed that women are more uncompromising than men when it comes to getting to know each other. 48 percent would turn away if they felt criticized, for example if their date belittled their clothing, their taste or their attitude. Men are more resistant in this regard: Only 23 percent would be so irritated by personal criticism in the introductory phase that they would withdraw. When it comes to communication, too, women see a red flag faster than men. If someone rarely reports of their own accord, it is not a good match for every second woman (47 percent) and every third man (31 percent).
Our intuition is usually a good radar to screen the dating market a little in advance. But the psychologist Lisa Fischbach advises caution when sorting out the other person too quickly: “Uncertainty and excitement can also lead to inauthentic behavior. If you’re confused, it’s better to ask what you mean than to judge.”
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