There are toxic relationships, you look at them from the outside and just don’t understand why two people are still a couple. But unhealthy partnerships in particular are often not so easy to end.
You keep coming back to the same point, going in circles and questioning your relationship at regular intervals. Somehow it doesn’t feel right or you know that this partnership is rather unhealthy and yet you don’t separate. There are various reasons that make a person cling to a toxic relationship.
10 reasons why people hold on to it:
The fear of something new, the fear of the unknown
As the saying goes, “People are creatures of habit”, you notice that again and again in relationships that have long been on the record. Instead of looking for something new, something pleasant, one prefers to get stuck in the old uneasiness.
You can’t give up hope
Anyone who has ever been in a toxic relationship knows that there is always a tendency to think: “This misconduct by my partner must have been the last time, it can’t go on like this. Everything will get better soon”. You just don’t give up hope for better times, but mostly these don’t come anymore or at least not permanently.
Manipulation: the endless cycle of promises
Manipulation is when you have a partner who purposefully gives you hope by lying to you that everything will get better soon. Perhaps the other person also claims that you are paranoid or overly sensitive or even practice gaslighting. This tends to keep you in a toxic relationship because you lose touch with reality.
Sympathy
Feeling sorry for your partner is actually not a good basis for a relationship. At this point, you no longer meet as equals. Maybe your partner is not doing well physically or mentally, or he has problems at work – the fact is, there are often reasons why a separation does not fit, but some people even stay in unhealthy partnerships for a long time through compassion.
Emotional dependency / low self-esteem
Especially people who are not bursting with self-confidence usually have greater problems breaking out of an unhealthy relationship. They tell themselves they will never meet someone new again, or are reluctant to go back into dating, sometimes for fear of rejection.
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There are internal and external influences as to why you don’t leave a toxic relationship
fear of loneliness
There are people who fear loneliness and for this reason prefer to remain in a relationship that is not going well. Some people have never learned to be alone in their life and are afraid of feeling lonely. But like everything else, it is ultimately a question of getting used to it.
Not wanting to disappoint and make the other person sad
Many people often perceive the separation and thus the abandonment of a relationship as a defeat and are afraid of disappointing or even hurting their partner, making them sad. So they stay in relationships that are actually long gone.
rollercoaster relationships
As the name suggests, a rollercoaster relationship is always up and down. An eternal cycle that can become addictive in the long run, because you experience euphoric highlights again and again, be it through reconciliation after an argument. But in the long run, this type of relationship is exhausting, causes stress and is exhausting for both parties.
“Everything was better before”
The return to the old, the past is often a reason why a person does not leave a toxic relationship. “But in the beginning he/she did this or that.” The ever-lasting hope that one day things will go back to how they were when the partnership started makes you cling to an unhealthy connection.
financial dependency
Even today it still happens that one partner has made himself completely financially dependent on the other, which makes it very difficult to separate even though things are going badly.
An unhealthy relationship is not conducive to one’s well-being. However, whether you are only in a bad relationship phase, or whether the unhealthy condition is permanent, must be checked on a case-by-case basis. However, with the help of the ten points, one can sometimes better understand why someone finds it difficult to leave a toxic relationship behind.
Source: Stern
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