Everyone has heard an outdated love phrase at least once in their lives. But often they are simply wrong and should be deleted from the catalog of advice.
Well-intentioned sayings and phrases are anything but popular, especially in love or when you’re heartbroken. The content of the outdated sayings is often misleading, suggesting a wrong message or expectations that are no longer up to date. These five sayings should be removed from the catalog of advice.
“Love hurts”
Wrong message: It’s normal and totally okay to suffer in a couple relationship.
Veto: This is of course not okay and the mutual financial dependency on the partner has also changed in recent decades.
Conclusion: Nobody should suffer or be unhappy in a relationship. A short phase: mostly ok. A permanent condition: not ok.
“Time heals all wounds”
Wrong message: Don’t be shy, things will definitely get better soon.
Veto: You can’t say that in general. Especially in love there are also wounds or losses that time cannot heal.
Conclusion: Please take the current pain seriously, even if it lasts a long time for the other person, instead of saying this.
Advice on love based on old sayings is no longer up-to-date
“Love overcomes everything”
Wrong message: No matter what your partner does, if it’s “true love” then you get over it. This saying not only questions the intensity of love, it also conveys that you have to endure everything, precisely because it is or should be “great love”.
Veto: This saying makes you suffer, endures more than you should and all that only because you might convince yourself that with “true love” you just have to.
Conclusion: Even with the supposedly “great love” there are limits and conflicts for self-protection that have to be clarified. Love alone is not enough for this.
“What loves teasing himself”
Wrong message: Badly packaged criticism that you should endure and take with humor because the other person only loves you.
Veto: When it comes to small taunts, the sentence may still be correct, but this phrase is quickly used when a deeper problem is being addressed, peppered with criticism, sarcasm and cynicism.
Conclusion: Listen carefully to what is being said and be careful not to be hurt by the teasing.
“Old Love Doesn’t Rust”
Wrong message: Once you love someone, you never get them out of your heart.
Veto: You absolutely cannot generalize. It all depends on the people and the circumstances of the breakup.
Conclusion: The saying is usually only intended to underline a long-gone status in the life of the other person, which is often no longer up to date and could stand for low self-esteem.
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Source: Stern
I am an author and journalist who has worked in the entertainment industry for over a decade. I currently work as a news editor at a major news website, and my focus is on covering the latest trends in entertainment. I also write occasional pieces for other outlets, and have authored two books about the entertainment industry.
