There are some behavior patterns that, naturally and unconsciously, we tend to repeat from our fathers and mothers. Find out why.
Behaviors, decisions, life schemes, mistakes, professional development or the relationship with money. People normalized the fact that children often repeat the same patterns than their parents, even if they are undesirable. Since the failures at work until toxic relationshipseverything seems to be part of a spiral in which one falls forcibly, as if the children were condemned to be a projection of life from his parents. And all this, it seems, is housed in the brain.
The explanation for this is that our subconscious integrated, in our upbringing, that You have no right to accept yourself as you are. and what should seek perfection. “You may not consciously agree with everything you’ve seen of your mother, but that has little influence on whether or not you repeat that pattern. Our subconscious mind pushes us to repeat a pattern because we tend to replicate what is family, what we learned as children” argues the coach Maite Issain his book “Your success is inevitable”.
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Maternal similarities: the most repeated patterns
Some of the patterns The most common problems that children tend to repeat are related to emotional attachments, money, work and self-esteem. Some psychologists argue that the most common are:
- Mother sacrificed his career, his time and his happiness for the children and let them know in every discussion with ideas of the type “I gave them everything, they are ungrateful”. His children tried many things to make him better, but then they felt that they failed and that it is an impossible task. Most likely older will play the role of rescuerssacrificing themselves to solve the problems of others.
- The mother left the money management in the hands of the father, making the children understand that money “it’s a man thing” and that one day someone would come to take care of his finances. Children will live without planning, without thinking about the future, with fear of money and spending every penny they earn. This kind of pattern is often repeated when money is something “taboo” and is not part of education.
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The answer to everything is in the brain
The normal thing is that the majority accept as absolute truth what they tell usshare or make us see our parents either adult caregivers. “Until eight years not fully formed the prefrontal cortex, which is the part of the brain responsible for reasoning and logic. So up to that point it is hard for us to discriminate between what we consider to be TRUE and what No”comment Maite Issa.
It is true that we have more sources of information in addition to parents or caregivers, but what happens is that “we are designed to first accept what they say, since from the evolutionary point of view it is necessary to be aligned with those who ensure the survival”Isa adds.
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During those early years, therefore, the beliefs through three ways: what we hear, what we see and what we experience. And those beliefs are they lodge in the subconscious which, as Issa explains, occupies 95% of mental activity. “We can try to do something different with our 5% conscious mind but there are fixed ideas that are sabotaging from that other 95%,” she concludes.
Experts remember that mental disorders cannot self-diagnoseand warn about non-professional psychological help services and offers.
Source: Ambito
I am an author and journalist who has worked in the entertainment industry for over a decade. I currently work as a news editor at a major news website, and my focus is on covering the latest trends in entertainment. I also write occasional pieces for other outlets, and have authored two books about the entertainment industry.
