What is latency and what do boys and girls need at that age?

What is latency and what do boys and girls need at that age?

In latency the child’s personality has already been formed and many of the questions that were part of his childhood have already found their answers. The impulse to investigate and constant curiosity give way to a period that coincides with the beginning of schooling and in which he is much more open to knowing the world through what others present him.

In this period, the child is more oriented as a social being, lives much more easily in institutional, social and group contexts without conflict and controls those impulses that are usually sanctioned by third parties, achieving harmony in their bonds, in relationships with their peers. , with his friends and with his family.

Also at this stage, many expressions of his childhood sexuality succumb to the acquisition of moral dykes such as disgust, shame and morality, being that things that a while ago caused him grace (such as eschatological jokes) now not only blush but also they embarrass you in third parties. It is a period in which tweens prepare to face the changes and challenges that adolescence implies. Much stronger interests begin to appear, they begin to express choices regarding what they want to do, how they want to orient themselves. It is common for more defined tastes to appear at this stage (sports, artistic, musical). The bonds with peers are no longer with everyone the same, some friendships tend to be strengthened.

With regard to play, regulated play unfolds to become an extremely powerful recreational and developmental tool and, due to the degree of maturity that the child has acquired and because it is a transition stage, it is a time of great value to enrich shared spaces and instances of dialogue with parents in order to generate the conditions that facilitate the access of the “no longer child” to adolescence.

What girls and boys need at this age is that we can accompany them in the transition to what will be adolescence, helping them to consolidate their bonds and their choices. On the other hand, taking into account that adolescence is usually a stage in which many parents find it difficult to talk with their children, pre-adolescence can be a good time not only to generate spaces for dialogue but also to facilitate all those references with whom they will be able to speak when they need to and do not want to resort to dialogue with parents.

Psychoanalyst, Entrepreneur, Founding Partner and Director of Désir Salud.

Source From: Ambito

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