“What loves each other teases each other” – a well-known saying and there is a lot of truth to it. Because relationships where you tease each other are happier. But when does teasing become bullying?
“Well you egghead, how was your day?” A bit of teasing is part of almost every relationship. Most couples like a playful tease and that bodes well for the relationship as well.
A study by the dating portal Elitepartner from 2019 found that humorous partnerships are more stable than those in which there is less laughter and less teasing. “Fun and humor is a connecting factor in human communication. Laughing together creates closeness,” explains psychologist Lisa Fischbach.
The study was also able to examine the relationship duration in connection with the teasing. The result was that 83 percent of people who have been together for between three months and three years often annoy each other. But even in long-term relationships, humor is not neglected: 73 percent of couples who have been in a relationship for more than ten years tease each other regularly. It seems like loving teasing is a humorous building block of an ongoing relationship.
The teasing can be that certain something in the relationship and in the dating
What is part of the entertaining repertoire in a relationship can not only make the other person laugh in the getting-to-know phase, according to the psychologist, it also shows that the other person likes you. But care must be taken in teasing the other in the beginning. Since you don’t know the person or his vulnerable side that well, you shouldn’t make the sharpest, ironic jokes directly here.
The couple therapist Christian Hemschemeier told the online portal “Watson” about teasing when flirting: “In principle, of course, everyone who is in love should have an interest in not hurting the other and refrain from jokes when it is clear that they are Hurting others. There should be respect for the other person’s boundaries and their feelings.”
There is a point where teasing can turn into a form of bullying. Mainly when weaknesses and physical deficits of the other are used for relationship humor. Even if teasing is often used in front of an audience to amuse everyone, the couple therapist confirms: “But if my weaknesses are constantly being trampled on, preferably in front of other people at a party, then that’s no longer teasing. Of course .”
“When asked about the crossing of borders, it is sometimes said: ‘Do not be like that. That was just for fun'”, says Christian Hemschemeier, you have to be very careful here. Some people also use teasing as a passive-aggressive way of demonstrating power. Hemschemeier says: “There is often passive-aggressive behavior behind it. Unfortunately, many people do not dare to openly address criticism and then hide their aggression in many small taunts.”
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