A breakup can sometimes turn into a catastrophic verbal war. To avoid this, it is important that the person who wants to break up chooses a respectful way to end the relationship.
The first impression of a person when dating often determines whether you want to see them again, the last impression in a relationship often determines how you remember them. Breaking up with a loved one is almost never easy for anyone, regardless of the reason for the relationship ending.
It’s easy to get lost in countless discussions to clarify things, which often lead to nothing but can widen the gap between two people who once loved each other. It’s not uncommon for a big argument to break out and someone with whom you once shared a bed and a table to say goodbye on bad terms.
This is something that doesn’t have to happen if you set yourself a few basic conditions and a kind of code of conduct for how you treat the other person and how you want to be remembered. The most important question when breaking up is one thing: How would I want to be treated myself?
In Person
A love that is coming to an end deserves to be confronted in person. No WhatsApp message, no phone call in which you tell the other person that it’s over. Of course, a personal confrontation with the spurned partner is not an easy undertaking, but respect and decency dictate that you give the other person a chance in person, to speak and to look you in the eye.
Questions upon questions
When talking about a breakup, take as much time as possible and without any restrictions so that the other person has enough opportunities to ask all the questions that are on their mind. If you deliberately shorten the meeting and don’t give them any space, the same questions will usually be asked afterwards via smartphone. It’s hard to avoid them. And the more questions the other person has answered, the more likely it is that the ex-partner will be able to process the breakup more quickly.
The separation in a relationship remains in your memory forever
Explanations
You should always go into a breakup conversation well prepared. You should be sure of your case, know the arguments and, above all, have gone through and answered any questions the other person might have in your head beforehand so that you can provide explanations. Of course, not everything in love can be explained. The lack of feelings, for example, cannot and does not have to be explained, but arguments like “we are not suited to each other” can.
Conversational skills
It is important to remain calm when breaking up. You went into the conversation with a plan and emotional preparation, but the breakup can come as a surprise to the other person. It is therefore understandable if your partner reacts emotionally. However, a conversation in which both parties give free rein to their emotions usually leads to nothing. It is therefore advisable for the person who wants to break up to remain calm and patiently answer the same question for the fifth time.
Winner and Loser
There are no winners and losers in a failed relationship. It is tragic for both sides and you have shared many wonderful times together. But even if the relationship ends, you should remember the beautiful moments of a breakup and be fair. Of course there are reasons for a breakup, such as cheating, where there is quite clearly a perpetrator, but there is no point in dwelling on it once you have decided to break up. You can give it as a reason, but you should leave it at that and not get drawn into mutual arguments like “Yes, but you also…”. You should also avoid clichés like “You’ll find someone better”.
Promised is promised
Are there promises or obligations that you still have to fulfill? If so, stick to them and do everything properly. A separation does not release you from the promises you have made and here, too, the question is: what would you expect from the other person?
The ways of fate
You never know what life will bring and whether and in what connection you might meet again in the future. That’s why it’s important that you part ways respectfully. And everyone wants to be remembered in a positive way, right?!
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I am an author and journalist who has worked in the entertainment industry for over a decade. I currently work as a news editor at a major news website, and my focus is on covering the latest trends in entertainment. I also write occasional pieces for other outlets, and have authored two books about the entertainment industry.
