Jungle camp: There are no more men – only princesses

Opinion

For once, this gender debate is not about “old, white men,” but about young men. What the older men, all over 40, are still able to do, the younger men have completely lost: holding the door open, being a gentleman, putting together a cupboard, being able to use a hammer drill, carrying the bags and sometimes even bringing the money home.

Elena Miras openly expressed a realization that I had to learn myself while dating in the jungle camp. After we had put his understanding on the table (“I don’t want to do what a woman does and a woman shouldn’t do what a man does”), Miras joined the debate.

“Which man can put a closet together for you these days?” Elena asks the group. All the men over 40, Mola and Thorsten, raise their hands and say “Here”. The 25-year-old Gigi’s answer: “My father”. So the Italian macho can’t even put a closet together. Great.

I have had to experience this myself on a number of occasions. Nothing against emancipation, but what is actually going on with men? My idea of ​​a woman with equal rights was not that she works full-time, takes care of the children, runs the household, puts together the Ikea cupboard and, if necessary, looks after her husband, who often enough is so miserable in the evenings just from his full-time work.

Not only a topic in the jungle camp, also widespread on social media

There are now hundreds of “funny” videos circulating on social media, made by women, showing how men want to be treated these days. She holds the door open for him, she pays in a restaurant, she gives him flowers. This example video alone has over 170,000 likes, so it’s not just me who noticed it. There are also lots of sayings circulating on social media like: “Girl, you can’t be the princess anymore, because he is already it”.

Elena Miras sums it up: “There are no men out there anymore!” This is a blanket statement, but overall I agree with her and ask myself one question in particular: How is a woman who is firmly grounded in life, has a good job, is attractive, has something on her mind and is independent, supposed to find a man who is her equal?

Many of us grow up without fathers, we have to learn to do everything on our own and to hammer nails into the wall ourselves. As a result, we grow up with the awareness that we don’t need a man. And the way many men behave these days is unfortunately true. But boys also have problems due to the lack of a parent. Growing up without a father often means that a boy lacks a male role model and would rather pluck his eyebrows in his free time than lug crates of water.

Men under 35 have problems finding themselves

I have met all sorts of different types of men when dating, and many of them are simply useless as “men” for planning the future. Some need as much me-time after a full-time job as they do after a shift in the mine, statements like: “No, I need that now, it’s good for me, otherwise I’ll go to pieces” when you ask for a meeting on the couch are part of the stressful reality of men under 35 these days. In their early or mid-thirties, other men start to think that they would rather be a DJ, rapper or influencer than an engineer, or they have their first midlife crisis and start another course of study. Stable future planning for starting a family? Adios. Often the woman brings home the money.

The consequence of this social development is that many women are becoming tougher and more independent. Women are increasingly being accused on social media of having too much “male energy” and that only “female energy” is attractive to men. In turn, this is supposed to convey to women: It’s your own fault that you’re single.

But dear men under 35, tell me one thing: How are we supposed to be more in our “feminine energy” now that you are the princess?