“Bachelorette” Stella Stegmann in an interview
The best kiss, the worst loser
In an interview with spot on news, Stella Stegmann reveals how the “Bachelorette” thinks about Martin today and what happened after filming ended.
Gender doesn’t matter, monogamy doesn’t matter, cameras don’t matter: As Germany’s first bisexual “Bachelorette”, Stella Stegmann (27) showed remarkable openness and really mixed up the format. But not all men knew how to behave.
In an interview with the news agency spot on news, Stella tells us which was the most beautiful kiss of the season, why she chose Devin in the finale and how the drama with Martin continued behind the scenes.
Congratulations on your “Bachelorette” season! What does your mother say about the decision? She didn’t seem to be that enthusiastic about Devin…
Stella Stegmann: Yes, my mother is quite critical and not easy to inspire. And she has a completely different type than me, purely visually. But that doesn’t influence my decision-making.
The final was between Devin and Ferry. What was noticeable was that you repeatedly asked Devin whether he would give you your freedom.
Stegmann: I always looked specifically at what hurdles there might be and then addressed them and saw whether we could reach a common denominator. Devin immediately understood what I wanted from a relationship, but I noticed he might not be quite as open as a Ferry.
And what ultimately spoke against Ferry?
Stegmann: That he is a personality that I sometimes found difficult to assess.
Stegmann: Yes, but I find the whole topic very difficult. The viewer first has to know that I don’t notice what’s happening in the villa. Seeing that in hindsight definitely hurt. Every time I saw the romantic moments with Martin, I couldn’t even look. I didn’t feel it at all anymore and could hardly listen to myself when I said sweet things to him. But viewers are now criticizing him in a way that makes me wonder if that’s helpful. When addressing criticism, you have to be sensitive. Otherwise, the person will feel hurt and offended and will take a defensive stance, which is then counterproductive.
But is it the responsibility of the person criticizing to deliver the criticism in such a way that the other person does not feel offended?
Stegmann: That’s true, but the problem is that the audience doesn’t see the whole picture. We don’t know all facets of this person. I’ve experienced this myself after “Too Hot To Handle”.
Do you regret letting Martin get this far?
Stegmann: If I had seen what the viewer saw, I would have made a different decision. But that’s how I felt at that moment and that’s why I don’t regret anything.
Was there a discussion with Martin?
Stegmann: Immediately after I came back, I formulated a message that I sent to Aysun so that she could send it to the group where there were quite a few candidates. Martin also responded to this news. Then we happened to see each other at a party where I thought, this is a completely different Martin. And even as I heard more and more about him, I thought, wow, OK, I assessed him differently and I don’t find him that likeable right now. For example, I noticed that he had communicated to the other candidates that he had left voluntarily. Then I thought too, pretty hurt male ego.
Interesting what’s going on behind the scenes!
Stegmann: Yes, it doesn’t stop with the final, it still goes on.
Who else from the show are you in touch with?
Stegmann: I really enjoy exchanging ideas with Aysun. After each episode we sent voice memos back and forth.
There were 15 men and only 5 women in the villa – would you have liked more female candidates?
Stegmann: I always say that gender doesn’t matter. There were 20 people who could potentially have become my new partner. I’m totally fine with spending all my time there. I always say it was the best time of my life.
You smooched quite a bit in the villa – which was the best kiss for you?
Stegmann: The most beautiful kiss was with Devin. I mean, that was the first kiss and I immediately thought to myself, oh how nice that it harmonized so well. It’s funny because many people say that the kiss wasn’t that nice to look at, but it felt really nice.
You demonstrated great communication skills, but you seemed to have trouble rejecting people at times. How difficult was that for you?
Stegmann: Yes, well observed. A classic example was not kissing Jan. That really affected me because I’m a people pleaser and always want the people around me to feel comfortable. But I’m very proud of myself in hindsight that I stood my ground because I didn’t feel it at that moment. I think this message is important because many women find it difficult to reject someone.
Would it also be an option for you to apply to the “Bachelor” program?
Why not?
Stegmann: I thought to myself, I’m now at a point where I can afford the requirement of being a “Bachelorette.” But the experience of living with 20 women and dating one guy would definitely be interesting too.
Do you already have a format in mind where you want to go next?
Stegmann: I actually can’t imagine anything in terms of dating right now. Otherwise I’m not a classic trash lover at all. I like formats in which you can take something with you and be entertained. Or sports challenges like “Let’s Dance”, of course I think that’s extremely cool.
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Source: Stern
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