Relationship problems
Would I be happier as a single? A psychologist gives answers
“Why am I doing this to myself?”, Most people have already asked themselves in a relationship. A psychologist analyzes this pattern.
Relationships require a lot of work and care. Sometimes you don’t just have to put an eye on and it may well be that one of the partners gets on your nerves from time to time that you ask yourself whether you might not be happier as a single. But how do you find out which life situation is the most suitable for you?
The American psychologist Mark Travers got to the bottom of this question in the “Forbes” magazine. In his analysis, however, he also emphasizes that every relationship should be viewed individually. Then he describes three cornerstones that can be helpful on the question: I would like to separate and prefer to be single?
Happiness in a relationship
“You will make a happy relationship happier than single existence, but a bad relationship can make it much more unhappy than single existence.” In other words, relationships make happier, but only the good ones, according to the psychologist. Travers states several studies that people in a relationship are only slightly happier than singles that the happiness of happiness after a while in a relationship on the level is decreasing before the relationship and that more happier people are in a relationship, but his conclusion is: they have to assess their individual situation-the advantages of their current relationship against the advantages of single life and both short-term and long-term perspectives take into account.
Regardless of whether as a single or in a relationship, you often want what you don’t have
It is not all gold that shines
The psychologist gives the urgent advice: the regret will be part of you with every decision. If you decide to stay in your current relationship, you could later regret not giving yourself the opportunity to explore other ways. However, if you choose a separation, you could ask yourself what could have been and whether better times would have come with your partner again. It is important to ask itself thoroughly: Which regret more hurts in the long run?
Caught in the past
The third point that needs to be checked is whether the doubts about the relationship may stem that you live too much in the past yourself. Do you often indulge in nostalgic thoughts how beautiful and relaxed the single life was before the relationship? The psychologist warns against glorifying the past, because this time will never come back.
Source: Stern
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