How sex has to be so that you really want it

Hardly any phrase has stimulated me in recent years to think as this: “Sex Worth Wanting”. She comes from the Canadian sex researcher Peggy Kleinplatz and translates as much as “sex that you can’t get enough of”. That sounds right, really tasty, right?

At that time, the following question immediately took part in my brain: Do I really experience “Sex Worth Wanting?” And what does “sex from which I can’t get enough” means for me? At that moment a light opened because I had to admit: I don’t have the kind of sex that leaves me completely fulfilled – and from which I can’t get enough. Of course I had orgasms and yet it wasn’t as tasty as Cookies & Cream from Häagen DAZs. For the ice I would go out at night to get supplies even when it was rain.

So if the sex feels like “so lala” and not after “Yummy Yeah”, then you don’t want to have it again and again. It’s so.

I always thought I had good sex. Until as a fresh mother I became more and more dissatisfied with our sex. Something was missing. But I couldn’t say what. . There I experienced unintentional touch, an intimacy without roles, masks and pressure to perform as well as an orgasm where I stood in the universe and was one with the stars. That was definitely cookies & cream, – that was sex that I couldn’t get enough of.

So I persuaded my husband to learn tantra massages with me, but that was quite a flop and a sexual dead end. So I continued to research and came back to Peggy Kleinplatz. The sex therapist has dealt with how sex has to be so that you really want to have it. Now! Immediately!