Involuntarily single? 17 reasons why people stay without a relationship

Not everyone who is single wants to change this status. But many are desperately looking for a partner, and then it just doesn’t work. How come? Researchers from Greece have taken on this problem. Menelaos Apostolou and Elli Michaelidou identified 17 factors that can make it easier for partner finding or easier.

The relatively high occurrence of involuntary singles raises the question of its causes, say the researchers. For their study, the researchers interviewed 1432 people, 734 women (average age 35 years) and 698 men (average age 39 years). In the group of respondents there were both forgiven people as well as voluntary or involuntary singles.

The examination asked about the effects of 17 different characteristics and characteristics – which are important for the dating success and which are not. You are:

The investigation appealed to the question of the context between these factors and the involuntary single existence. This is not the first study that tries to educate the Mismatch problem-i.e. the paradox that, of all people, of all people with largely free partner choice have a high proportion of involuntary singles. The approach of Menelaos Apostolou and Elli Michaelidou is innovative because they query a majority of factors and examine their correlations. The result of the evaluations shows that there are decisive factors that increase the likelihood of staying single and, despite the partner request, not to find a partner. However, there are different characteristics in men and women.

The result: not a factor alone condemned to the involuntary single existence. Only when certain characteristics come together will it be difficult. Low flirting capacity is a negative factor in men and women. This is not surprising, because flirting is a key capacity, without them lacking the first initial contacts. In women, it only becomes hopeless when, in addition to the bad flirting, a cluster of low flirting ability, sexual locks, is picky when looking for a partner and low tolerance. Then a long single existence is almost inevitable.

Bad flirting techniques are also a negative factor for men. But they form the minus cluster with other factors than in women. They are called: low emotion control, low self -esteem. There is also an increased body mass index (BMI) and impaired sexual functionality.

One result is the same for both sexes: nothing works without good flirt techniques. However, they are only a start, those affected should also keep an eye on the other negative factors and, if necessary, work on them if they want to find a partner.

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