People Pleasing
Finally say no! How we set limits without losing sympathy points
So -called “People Pleaser” want to make it right – and often forget themselves. Here, graduate psychologists explain how they can be charged charmingly and why a guilty conscience should be celebrated.
It is 4:53 p.m. when my boss suddenly stands in front of my desk and asks me to do another task: “Best until tomorrow.” While my long to-do list runs in front of my inner eye like the credits of a movie, I’m actually already on the go to my family and everything in me is “no”, it happened: “Yes, of course!” The new project is on my table before I know myself. On the way home I meet my neighbor, who asks me if I can look for her flowers during her vacation. Although I don’t have a green thumb and I hardly find time to pour our own cacti adequately, I suddenly hold your key in my hand. When I lie dissatisfied in bed in the evening, it rattles in my head: why didn’t I just say no?
These three warning signals are typical of “People Pleaser”
In everyday life there are always situations in which we find it difficult to express a clear no. However, if you say yes to everything in different areas of life and focus on others, without paying attention to your own needs and wishes, you run so -called “People Pleasing” (in German: “People fall”). A term that is used more and more often in psychological literature – but the behavioral pattern itself is hardly scientifically examined. What makes typical “People Pleaser”? “People who tend to” People Pleasing “, sacrifice themselves and agree, although they actually have no time or energy. They are trying to meet the expectations of others that he or she often falls by the wayside,” explains graduate psychologist Ulrike Bossmann, who has dedicated a book to the topic.
There are three clear warning signals for the bestseller author.
Source: Stern
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