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How do you tell the partner that you no longer find him sexy?
Loves can hardly keep their fingers. But what if the first attractiveness flies? Couple and sex therapist Heike Melzer knows what couples can do.
If you are in love, the thought of the others can be enough to trigger sexual excitement. But that doesn’t stay that way. Why?
At the beginning of a relationship, binding affine people have the desire to spend as much time as possible with the other, to build a bond. In addition, we usually only show ourselves from our chocolate side at the beginning, are nicely attracted, are understanding, and everything is exciting. At the same time, we still know little about the other and project a lot into our object of desire.
Sounds like the reason is the strong one attraction Especially on illusions …
The longer we know the other, the more we notice where our own idea of the partner does not match reality. And other needs also report. That I realize: ups, I’m more than that we, and I also have friends and hobbies. Tasks may appear that are more difficult than going food to eat – an illness, a career snack, child rearing. At some point you have to put the pink glasses and ask yourself whether you are really suitable for everyday use as a couple.
Everyday life is one thing, but what if the partner weighs 30 kilos more at some point or suddenly a bottle every evening Wine drink. What if you just can’t find the other sexy anymore?
It is very important to address the elephants in the porcelain shop in the partnership and not always just jump over his trunk, which beats back and forth and to look at the porcelain.
When one can go, it is as if you drive tandem, and the other no longer comes along
How do you mean that?
Love is one thing, but sexuality is also bound to certain external attributes. If one changes, it also affects the other. When one can go, it is as if you drive tandem, and the other no longer comes along. This does not inspire, but then feels more like a block on the leg. You have to address that, even if that’s not easy. The competition does not sleep. There are many temptations outside the relationship, dating exchanges and apps.
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Dr. med. Heike Melzer is a neurologist and psychotherapist. In her practice, it offers, among other things, couple and sex therapy as well as coaching. Melzer is also the author of the books “focusing – the new sexual revolution” and “hidden bait”.
Source: Stern
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