Expert about relationships
“Kosen names are basically a sign of connection”
Poss names often find its way into romantic relationships. How these statements can and what couples should consider, explains couple therapist Dr. Antje Riekhof the star.
Just call yourself the first name? In many romantic relationships rather unusual. Instead, the partner is stored in the smartphone as a “treasure”, “hare” or “baby”. The choice of the nose of the nose can say a lot about the relationship, as couple therapist Dr. Antje Riekhof the star explained.
What do pet names say about a relationship?
“Basically, names are of course an expression of connection, of affection, of closeness. They create a feeling of belonging-not only between partners and partners, but also between friends and friends,” explains the expert. If you use a nickname, this often shows a certain sympathy. Especially if they are linked to common experiences or certain insiders.
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Dr. Antje Riekhof is a graduate psychologist and focuses on couples and relationships. It has received his doctorate in social psychology and offers couple therapy as well as individual and relationship coaching. Appointments are made on your skills on site in Hamburg and online
But: “Especially in dispute situations, such a nickname can also be condescending or as if you don’t take your counterpart seriously if you say ‘Hasi’ or ‘Mäuschen’ in a serious argument.” Situations would always have to be considered individually, and the first name should be used at a reasonable moment. For example at professional events. “Of course, it is crucial that the salutations are coherent and authentic for both.”
Anyway, it is a good idea not to determine a nickname without the partner’s consent. “Do you actually like it when I call you that? Or do you want a nickname at all?” Are questions that you should ask each other, explains the couple therapist. “There are people who don’t like that at all. They would like to be addressed with their real name and also with the full name.” To ask whether a nickname is okay is therefore a recommended step.
Which names are frequently chosen?
It can be a sign of connection if you choose a special, individual name for your loved ones. Most of the time, couples are quite uncreative when choosing the nicknames. According to the name agency “Nambos”, which carried out over 1000 people a few years ago, these nicknames are most popular among couples:
- Schatz (37 percent)
- Schatzi (9.6 percent)
- Hase (3.9 percent)
- Darling (3.5 percent)
- Schnuckel/Schnucki (3.1 percent)
- Mausi (2.8 percent)
- Bear/Bärchen/Bärli (2.2 percent)
- Papa/dad/papilein (2 percent)
- Abbreviation or trivialization of the first name
According to the linguist Damaris Nübling, who dealt with the topic of nicknames in a research work, names are positively staffed in relationships and mostly work with gender -independent. Nicknames in general, on the other hand, could also be used as ridiculous names and thus be negatively occupied. This is not the case in relationships. So you don’t have to be very creative for pet names to express affection.
Riekhof says about the choice of common nicknames: “‘Schatz’ or ‘Hase’ are socially established and positively occupied. So it is a quick, intuitive and easy choice.” In addition, it is a risk -free way to rely on the known instead of thinking about something very own.
In the end, however, pet names should always be used in moderation and never completely replace the name of the opposite to take the person seriously. So that she still feels seen from the role as a partner.
Used source: “” (Research work University Frankfurt)
Source: Stern
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