Relationship: Why vacation is so important for love – and dangerous

Love is not easy. If you do not take care of them well enough, it gets between the millstones of everyday life and is crushed by long working days, marauding children, sudden water damage and zipper little of the body. In the evening you are so tired that the excitement does not make it beyond the news.

But on vacation, everything should be different. Singles are looking for vacation flirts and couples in the ports of the world for the connection to each other. In hours of conversations and beach walks at the sunset, it should finally crackle again, the romantic batteries are charged and the desire to be stimulated.

Can that go well? Or do we expect too much for love from vacation?

Lea Holzfurtner is a clinical sexologist and expert at the dating app Bumble. In her practice, she experiences that about every second couple reports of a strengthened connection to each other on vacation. Many couples also say that they get on better on vacation than at home. With the results of a study by the online partner transfer, this coincides with six out of ten couples there that they had come from vacation with a solid relationship and, among other things, called the exchange about the partnership and discussions about the future as reasons for this.

Why is that? The vacation offers a wonderful way for couples to break up everyday life and instead make the time together and sex together, says Lea Holzfurtner. At best, we not only have a break from quenching bosses on vacation, but also from all the ner versions that are waiting in our free time. If things go well, we can let go and relax.

In a BUMBLE survey, 82 percent of the participants stated that they were not only more spontaneous on vacation; A good 50 percent also said that they felt more attractive when traveling. Both factors that can have a pleasure. “If you feel more comfortable in your own body on vacation, you also have easier access to sexual lust,” says Holzfurtner. It is therefore not a surprise that more than half of the Bumble members surveyed are specifically looking for romantic connections when traveling.

The numbers from the. There, a third of the respondents stated that they had more sex than at home on vacation, also a third said that he also felt better. “Our lust is prone to the fault. Many things of everyday life help to dampen them. On vacation these troublemakers are not so present and the mental excitement finds space in the head again,” explains Holzfurtner. Many underestimated how much time would need and fulfilling sex.

When there is time to have a long conversation about sex in everyday life or to indulge a bit all day before it really comes to sex, the expert asks. It is different on vacation. Therefore, the sex is often much more exciting and produces great orgasms. “The duration of the arousal is essential for the orgasm interior,” she says. And: “Good sex not only needs the right physical, but also enough mental stimulation.”

The vacation tears us out of our usual processes, gives us the opportunity to get to know something new and try out, move our horizons. This also affects the experimental capacity during sex – whether it is sexual set in the aircraft toilet or the holiday romance with the animator. Sex fantasies for which mental capacities often lacked in everyday life to live out, explains Lea Holzfurtner.

This is the sunny side. But there is also the dark side. Not for all couples, the holiday atmosphere does not provide the butterflies in the stomach or even fireworks of sexual experiences, but for Zoff. If there is a couple of 24/7 together during the vacation time, it is also a reality check, says the sexologist. “On vacation it shows quite well how we work as a team: How well do we actually communicate? How good are we in compromise shooting? How well can we go into the wishes and expectations of the partner?”

It is possible that partners have completely different ideas from what makes a good vacation. One only wants to roast on the beach, the other of Museum to Museum. If this is not clarified in advance, disappointments quickly occur. In addition, expectations of their vacation should remain realistic, according to the sexologist. Not every activity has to be committed together, not every free minute with the partner and not every vacation has to be a couple vacation.

Even if the Libido weakens and the love partners are not constantly torn off the clothes from the body, it is not yet an indication that the relationship is not right. “Sex does not necessarily say something about the quality of a relationship. It is a shame that we often only use sex as a KPI. There are much more meaningful standards for that,” says Lea Holzfurtner. “Some people may just want to take a vacation from the performance pressure on vacation, which they normally link with sex.”