No, life is not always easy. It’s like building a puzzle. Sometimes it’s easy to find the right parts, everything falls into place. At times we have to search longer, some are lost and missing forever. Three special women in Ried spoke of joy and sadness, of life and death, but also of strength and the magic of change. Among them Lucia Loimayr-Wieland. She should replace what her parents lost before. When she was a teenager she found out by chance that she had existed before. At least on paper.
“No matter how funny I am, I can’t get the woman happy.” Even as a little girl, Lucia Loimayr-Wieland felt this one dark cloud hanging over her family. “I’m the sister of two deceased siblings. I’m the understudy. My sister’s name was Lucia, like me. When I was young, I accidentally found her death certificate. I was shocked because my name was on it,” she said. To her many questions, she received only sparse answers from her parents, who remained in an almost bottomless state of sadness. What does a person who experiences such pain need? Loibmayr-Wieland is a bereavement counselor and works in children and youth hospice work. Coincidence?
Elfi Hütter-Fürthauer was born with a loss. She was born without a left forearm. Despite her handicap, she conquered everything as a child, even knitting needles. Growing up in a large family in poverty and with an addicted father who was an alcoholic was much more challenging. Hütter-Fürthauer set up the “EGO” drug counseling centers in Braunau and Ried and managed them for more than 20 years. Coincidence?
Christine Wally-Biebl knows what it means to grow up in a highly controversial family home. As a child, she felt it was her responsibility to bring father and mother together. Wally-Biebl ultimately grew up with her grandparents. For many years, the woman from Uttendorf accompanied children of divorce through “Rainbows” and conflict resolution is part of her work. Coincidence? Everyone has their components that shape their own lives.
“Never stays the way it is”
Loimayr-Wieland lived in Oldenburg in northern Germany for many years. There she started a “Death Café” with volunteers from the Hospice Service Foundation. Strangers talk about death over coffee and cake. She worked full-time for the hospice service. In the grief counseling she experienced the pattern she was familiar with: parents who want to name their born child like the one that died. Based on her own experience, she asks the right questions. The woman of farewell culture, as she called herself, stressed that she should not overlook the child who was still alive. Loimayr-Wieland is now the mother of a deceased daughter. And wife of a deceased man. In major crises, relying on the fact that things will never stay the way they are – this sentence was and is helpful to her. Times change, the good and the bad.
A change brought Hütter-Fürthauer a call. “It was a Friday when we were told there was a newborn. On Monday we had our bundle of joy.” After eight miscarriages, the couple decided to adopt. Two years later, a foster child, a boy, was added. “I want to encourage you to consider a foster child. That’s important to me,” said Hütter-Fürthauer.
Find solutions. Not just a job for Christine Wally-Biebl, but a matter close to her heart. Emotional language is key here. A foreign language for her as a child, today it is the central form of expression. Wally-Biebl is a passionate theater teacher. With the so-called “Forumtheater”, different solutions are tried out in a playful manner in order to find a way out of a conflict situation.
“Women talk about life” was the name of the exchange meeting of Regionalcaritas and meeting place for women in the Franziskus education center in Ried. Annemarie Demon moderated.
Elfi Hütter-Fuerthauer
The 60-year-old from Rieder studied at Sozak, today’s University of Applied Sciences for Social Work. She later set up the drug counseling centers “EGO” in Braunau and Ried and was head of this specialist center for youth and addiction issues in the Innviertel for more than 20 years. “EGO” offers help in overcoming social, psychological, legal and medical problems and supports those affected and their families in their search for new ways of dealing with their dependencies.
Christine Wally-Biebl
The 56-year-old mother of four lives in Uttendorf. She is an academic, psychological counselor, qualified life and social counselor, family and couples counselor, supervisor, Gordon family and personality trainer, holds seminars and lectures on communication and conflict resolution. Passionate theater teacher, focus on forum theater – an interactive form of theater for constructive conflict resolution. She is the contact person for the Caritas service center for caring relatives in Ried and Braunau.
Lucia Loimayr-Wieland
55 years old, grew up in Prambachkirchen, lived in Oldenburg until recently and is now back in Prambachkirchen. She started working for the Oldenburg Hospice Service Foundation in 2006. There she accompanied children, young people and adults until death. She is also an artist, designing coffins individually, among other things. With her coffin art, she sees herself as a companion in the important time between death and burial, in addition to undertakers. More information on her homepage: sargkunst-lucia.com
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