Amira Pocher: That was the reason for the marriage ending

It is the very first time that Amira Pocher has publicly commented on her separation – and in doing so shows a completely new, vulnerable side. Because when she talks about her ex-partner Oliver Pocher in her new podcast “Liebes Leben”, tears suddenly start rolling down. The last few months have not been easy for Amira, as she admits. A particular challenge was recording the joint podcast with ex-husband Oliver Pocher, where she had to behave professionally despite the private turmoil. “We were just arguing, then we sat down for an hour and recorded the podcast together,” said the 31-year-old.

Her brother Hima, who appears at her side in the new podcast, then brings up the separation from Olli, to which Amira explains that she has been unofficially separated for a long time. “I’ve been separated for a long time. Surprise Officially, I don’t know, for two or three months. And unofficially, you can imagine that you don’t break up overnight – and then call the ‘Bild’ newspaper straight away. Like that Something is a long process and of course the public doesn’t know that.” She speaks openly about the emotional hardships she went through during this time: “I not only have a few bite wounds on my tongue, but also a few knife stabs in the back. What upset me personally and left me exhausted. I’m physically and… Physically reaching my limits wasn’t nice.”

The past two weeks may not have been “the most difficult of my life,” but they are already in the top three. Amira Pocher “reached my limits physically and mentally. That wasn’t nice.” One side is the media, but the other is “the interpersonal aspect,” which is “a completely different league.” “I care about the people around me. I care about the man with whom I brought two children into the world. I care about other parties who are now simply sitting in my chair without even speaking to me to have spoken a word before – or to have asked me how I was doing.” Or it could be about others who simply didn’t come forward. “That’s what hurt me the most, the last few weeks – not the headlines.”

That was the turning point

The moderator also comments on Olli’s supposed fight for the relationship and speaks plainly: “Just because he made two Instagram posts. They touched me, of course. But they would have touched me even more if they had come in person. But they came in person “Yeah, never anything.” The mother of two continues: “If Olli had invested as much strength and power and fought for our marriage as he is doing now for his own profit and to make me look completely stupid, then we would still be together now.” Amira, on the other hand, tried various approaches to saving the marriage and left no stone unturned. She emphasized that she has always expressed her feelings openly and actively tried to strengthen the relationship through conversations and even by offering to travel together. She also consulted online relationship coaches, read books and watched YouTube videos. A functioning marriage always requires the commitment of both partners, says Amira.

A turning point in their marriage was shortly after Amira’s 30th birthday. Her mother revealed to her that she had changed for the worse. “Our mother said to me: ‘Amira, you have changed so drastically. You are so negative, the way you speak, you are vulgar in the culture of debate.” Amira admitted that she was initially unwilling to accept this criticism. The statement bothered her for a long time. After a few weeks she came to the conclusion that she couldn’t continue like this.

Amira finds touching words about her love for Olli: “Of course I loved him. It also really hurts when people say it wasn’t like that. I gave birth to two children with this man and married him.” Amira then struggles to hold back tears. Hima takes her in his arms. She emphasizes that she wasn’t interested in financial benefits, but rather in a happy marriage. “If you read our marriage contract, you can see what I was aiming for: love! I didn’t want any money, any gain, any real estate. I just wanted our marriage and to live happily.”

“I’m looking forward to butterflies in my stomach”

Finally, Amira talks about love: “I want to understand love even better. What is love? How does love work? It’s a big process, everyone has a different view.” And: “I’m really in the mood for love now! I’m ready for love! I’m looking forward to love! I’m looking forward to butterflies in my stomach. But there isn’t a new partner at the moment: “I have that for everyone Same thing said: I don’t have a new person in my life. The only new person in my life is myself. I have found myself completely new. The new Amira.”

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