Those mandates are a guide and an oppression at the same time, the celebrations are enjoyment and obligation, encounter and conflict.
The mandate to be happy should not force you into the falsehood of happiness.
What will it be to be happy? Surely it’s not running out to buy what you can’t, to meet with who you don’t want, to eat until you burst and drink until you pass out.
The actions with which you approach the holidays, such as putting on the lights, preparing something delicious to receive the family, giving a gift, have to prepare the ground in which joy may or may not arise.
If you did everything and you don’t feel splendid!!! You will have your reasons!
I tell you that before the 18th century it was wrong to be happy, it was libertine… not serious… banal… and now in the era of stores and instagram reels it is censored to be wrong!!!
You still have time to think about how you want to spend your holidays, which traditions and mandates you adhere to, and which ones you are going to let go of.
Look at life with its succession of moments, many times the bitter and the sweet happen at the same time. Don’t try so hard to be happy or to seem so. That real life is all mixed up.
Perhaps last year we set ourselves a goal, we set out to obtain something more than what we already have and we have already achieved it, that induces us to go in one direction, it drives us, it gives us a north, but a year later it is probably that in the best of the cases we have obtained something partial, only a part of what we proposed. So if this year you start to make a personal balance, how do you do it? If it is like an accounting exercise, it becomes merciless, and enters into a logic. Do I win or lose?
However, there are other ways to do it, for example, looking less at how much you achieved and looking more at how you traveled the path that touched you. Remember that when you made decisions you did not know how they would turn out, you only knew that you had an objective or a problem ahead of you, you imagined options, you chose one without knowing how it would change the reality that surrounds you.
When you take a look at the year that has passed, try to find three things to be thankful for, be it to thank the universe for giving us a new opportunity every day, a loved one for something they did for you, or yourself for doing some things well.
I can’t stop mentioning the World Cup… and I don’t know where to put it, this year it’s like that, so I add “Football and life are not a sum of individualities, they are as a team!”
If you get hooked on the reproaches and what couldn’t be, even sweet bread will seem bitter.
You will meet the ones you want, well sometimes with the ones you can, remember that the loyalty of your bonds is not played in a single day And because your child cannot have dinner with you or because your sister chose your brother-in-law’s family, family or love does not end. You can’t always be with everyone you want to be with and that’s not a betrayal.
Don’t be pulling, or pulling those you love, you can’t be everywhere.
Celebrate life, with what is joyful and sad.
Celebrate with the unfair and with the surprising
Celebrate with open eyes and a clear mind.
Celebrate without having to be ashamed of papers because you drank too much.
Celebrate with the desire to once again be the protagonist of the miracle of a new day and a new opportunity to do, to choose, to give thanks for building a better world for those who come.
Happy Holidays.
Psychiatrist (MN 77443) President of the Psychotherapies chapter of the Association of Argentine Psychiatrists (APSA)
Source: Ambito
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