This attitude seen in some people is classified as a form of psychological abuse, according to some specialists. Find out more.
When we are intending to start a bond with a personIt usually happens that at first we feel that “we are doing well”, until from one moment to another that person begins to “leave us aside”. But for some reason, we continue to hope that something could happen and we feel that Not everything is lost. And if that person knows how we feel and does not nothing to clarify your real interests, keeps us with the expectations that “something” can happen, playing with our psychology.
This attitude of feigning interest in the other person has a name. In psychology it is known as benching and is listed as a form of psychological abuse.
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what is the benching?
He benching as such it refers to the attitude of leaving a person “on the substitute bench” either “backup”. That is, to the fact maintain relationships for some kind of interest concrete. Benching is fundamentally related with romantic relationshipsin which one of the members “maintains the relationship for the benefit he gets from it,” according to a psychologist.
The causes of benching can be variedboth because gets a sexual benefitgiven that the relationship allows the person maintain relationships whenever. or same too it can be sentimentalbecause you know that that person likes and that assures you an emotional support. Likewise, it does not only have to do with sexual-affective issues. Benching also applies for labor relations.
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Benching: how to identify it in time
According to what some psychologists maintain, there are some tips to discover if you are victim of this abuse:
- If he shows interest in having meetings with you, but after does not finish specifying never the moment
- Although they arrange the moment in which they would see each other, in the end never has availability.
- If he is in very close contact with you at first, but then he starts to show distant and cold.
- If there are no people around you who know your existence.
- If he interacts with your social networks but does not write to you or does not respond to your messages.
Source: Ambito
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