Lying is human nature, but this could become a problem, especially in a relationship based on honesty. Researchers found out what evidence could indicate a lie and how to unmask the liar.
At first there is usually a strange gut feeling. The partner tells a story or gives an answer that makes you prick up your ears. Is what he or she just said true? However, when asked, the person sticks with the variant mentioned. But there are psychological ways to drive the person into a corner and thus have a chance to find out whether what has been said is true.
Researchers found five key clues about whether you’re being lied to in a relationship:
- The body language: A liar may send noticeable physical signals such as avoiding eye contact, excessive fidgeting, nervousness, frequent face touching, a stiff posture, or even gestures that are inconsistent with the statement.
- Verbal cues: A liar may betray themselves linguistically by hesitating, repeating themselves, adopting unusually high or low pitches of voice, or responding in excessively complex and detailed ways to create the impression of accuracy. Attention – here it depends on the questions, preferably a little later – does he remember the details correctly? Or the liar only gives very few details, then it’s time to ask.
- Contradictions in the story: One should pay attention to contradictions in a person’s statements. If details or facts contradict each other in different narratives, this could be an indication of a lie.
- Unusual behavior: If a person suddenly changes their normal behavior pattern, for example by becoming more nervous or unusually aggressive, this could indicate that they are trying to hide something. Especially if the aggressiveness increases the more detailed the question is.
- The gut feeling: Sometimes we have an intuitive sense of whether someone is telling us the truth or not. It is important to pay attention to this inner voice, although it may not always be reliable. But almost everyone knows that there is often something to a bad gut feeling.
Of course, these observations only serve as circumstantial evidence; there is no guarantee that the person is lying, even if all of these points have been covered. On average, every person lies once or twice a day. Of course, you have to differentiate between lies that are intended to protect someone – such as telling your best friend that your ex-boyfriend’s new one doesn’t look that good, and lies that have a malicious or advantage-oriented intention.
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