I’m better than you!: How to transform competition into a beneficial resource for everyone

I’m better than you!: How to transform competition into a beneficial resource for everyone

All of us tend to act from our beliefs, which are precisely that, beliefs, not absolute truths. And we can transform them! As?

I’m better than you! How many times in our lives have we been told this or given it to us without words? What do we do when someone with a dominant personality overwhelms us with these types of disqualifying messages, sometimes driving us away from our own center? What happens when we ourselves have these thoughts while watching a coworker, boss, or partner talking or doing something?

For now, we have to understand that All of us tend to act from our beliefs… which are precisely that, beliefs, not absolute truths. And we can transform them! As?

The first step will be very personal, questioning ourselves about the things we say and how we say them, seeking to perceive how our own words resonate with us. The second step will be to learn to recognize where we are speaking and behaving from, evaluating how our sayings impact our relationships with others.

These types of negative beliefs (“I am better than others”) sometimes take hold in people, completely taking them out of focus. In addition to not providing any value, they generate exhaustion instead of driving progress, favoring situations of dysfunctional competition and uncomfortable family, work and social environments in general.

To get out of that place that does not allow us to grow, I propose to develop emotional intelligence. When this path is undertaken, a new panorama of possibilities unfolds, giving way to a different perspective.

This “other way” of feeling, thinking, acting, assumes a leading and differential role that will make each of us, ourselves, and the other person shine, no longer competing, but recognizing and strengthening the best in each one. based on joint work in pursuit of achieving objectives. Then, it will be time to replace “I am better than you” with “We are the best! We are the champions of the world!”.

The more effective our way of communicating is, challenging our own beliefs, the more meaningful will be the passage of our lives through the lives of others, and vice versa…

5 tips to develop your emotional intelligence:

  • Compare yourself with yourself: today, in your current version, before and thinking about the ideal person you want to be.
  • Don’t take everything literally. Nothing is personal, the other says what he says…
  • Put true empathy into play: the other does the best they can, help them see something different, without judging whether it is right or wrong.
  • Don’t criticize and make valuable contributions.
  • Accept that others may think differently. Believing that we have the only truth will only close doors for us.

Specialist in Emotion Coaching, founder of Coaching with horses and creator of the Triple C Methodology. CEO of the organization “Emotion in Motion”.

Source: Ambito

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