The reward and punishment system can produce that children in the first place, do something just to obtain an object without understanding the importance, for example, of ordering, of being responsible according to their age, of caring for the other. Punishments generally tend to cause fear to emerge towards who should be the person of support and security.
Each child lives in a family environment and each family builds norms and agreements. Encouraging communication, learning to identify emotions so that we can later understand our own and ask for help when we need it, is of the utmost importance in the growth of a subjectivity. Children need to be listened to and adults can learn a lot from their side, we just have to be open to enter their world and connect with the children we were who are reactivated in our role as parents.
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For this reason, we seek as mental health professionals to make visible and raise awareness about the importance of a review of the personal history as children of today’s parents because many times scenes of what was passively suffered as children are updated. It is interesting to be able to read one’s own story so as not to repeat behaviors that were not positive and to make a difference.
It is important to locate that everything cannot be done and that even receiving many gifts that does not guarantee happiness. Being able to choose one of those many toys that you see in the different media is the possibility of waiting for it, craving it to be able to value it and then giving it life by playing. We teach them by example, it is not about quantity but quality and I am not talking about the toy itself. If we listen to them, if we help them choose and explain that this gift is special because it has to do with their choice, with their current interests and with their moment, that is quality.
Clinical psychologist and author of “Here we are … Returning”. MN 42238/MP 82888 @conociendonos_padua
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