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There are plenty of questions and myths about sex. We have taken on a few of them and are answering them in this series together with sexologist Dania Schiftan. This episode is about the topic of sensual massage.
Many people like to be massaged. A massage can not only help with tension, but it can also be part of foreplay or used to get physically closer to your partner and to pamper him or her. Sexologist Dania Schiftan has helpful tips for a sensual massage and explains how you can massage your partner properly.
The expert says: “In sex therapy there is ‘Sensate Focus’, which I still use in a modified version. The focus is on getting to know my partner again in very small steps.” This can be used when massaging. Every week you can choose a part of your partner’s body and stroke, touch or massage it. The other person does the same. “The exciting thing about it is that I don’t touch or massage in a way that I think the other person might like. Instead, I touch in a way that I want to touch.” The attention should always be directed at the part of the body being massaged and the person doing the massage should give themselves over to the massage in such a way that they feel like being touched.
“If the touches are pleasurable, the partner will feel it and enjoy the massage. And at the same time signal which touches they like. The whole thing becomes a dynamic togetherness.” This way, partners can get involved with each other again and find out how they like to touch and be touched, so that both sides enjoy the massage and can give themselves over to it. Communication, verbal and non-verbal, is important here.
Sensual massage: More tips
This is the main point when it comes to a sensual massage. But if you want to massage properly, you should also consider other things, explains Dania Schiftan. “The room should be warm enough for a sensual massage and the light should be pleasant. You should have time and peace. These are factors that are important for a proper massage.” You should also really want the intimate massage and sensual touches. “If you just want to get the whole thing over with quickly, it won’t work,” predicts the expert.
In addition, the following tips can be useful for a sensual massage:
- A can help your partner to relax better. For an intimate massage, where the erogenous zones are also to be stimulated, a a good idea. The gel can be distributed and rubbed in the hands beforehand so that it has a pleasant temperature. If necessary and with regular massages, a help.
- are other tools that can be used for a sensual massage. They provide pleasant light and the wax can be used for massaging.
- Stimulating and calming music can accompany the massage perfectly.
- Start with smaller areas and expand the massage; if necessary, perform a full-body massage. Your partner can indicate whether you want an erotic massage and whether you want intimate areas to be touched. But sex doesn’t have to happen. It can stay with stimulating touches, sex toys can be used, etc. The important thing is that both sides have desire and fun and enjoy the touches.
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