Alessandra Meyer-Wölden after separation: “I don’t regret anything on my part”

Alessandra Meyer-Wölden (41) recently announced to the world that her new boyfriend had broken up with her. Now she is talking to her ex-husband Oliver Pocher (46) about the separation. In the latest episode of their collaboration, the two talk, among other things, about the end of the relationship and how they deal with such situations.

“Of course you have to be sure when you go public with a decision like that. Although I have to say, the decision is often made for you,” says Meyer-Wölden about their recent separation. There was a press inquiry very quickly, “whether that’s true and then of course you have to take a moment to think about it and say: ‘Yes, I would like to announce that myself. I feel the need to be honest about it.’ […] Of course you can then say: ‘No comment, I won’t say anything about it. I don’t comment on my relationship status.’ Or whatever.” But she decided on a different path – one that she “simply says honestly what’s going on with me, how I’m feeling, what’s happening.”

On November 11th, Meyer-Wölden learned that her new boyfriend had broken up with her. “Normally I wouldn’t post something like this – and it definitely takes courage. But because I’ve opened the doors to my private life, I want to honestly share what’s going on inside me right now,” she wrote. “My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago and even though it’s difficult for me, I’m trying to be understanding about it. It wouldn’t be true if I said that it doesn’t hurt that our relationship didn’t last that long as I would have wished with all my heart.”

“And that did me a lot of good, it was very healing, just writing down my pain and sharing it,” Meyer-Wölden now explains. She was surprised by “this wave of love” she received. And she also has to thank Pocher: “You really had my back.” She told him at some point that she didn’t know how she was supposed to deliver a podcast in a more “professional” way because I felt really shitty inside. You watched that too. And then you were so nice to me and loved me held there and picked up.”

“The show must go on,” comments Pocher. He has also attended appointments “at all possible times”. For example during breakups, “where you were lying there crying at 6:30 p.m. and at 8 p.m. you performed in front of 2,000 people and played your comedy program. That’s just how it is.”

“Our lives are no more important than those of many others,” says Pocher. Many people feel this way, “and they have to go to work as normal the next day and sit there from morning to evening and have jobs that perhaps tend to be even more socially relevant than what we do.” However, people would perceive the two’s private lives “as entertainment” and say to themselves: “Oh, look how things are going for them or not.”

This “entertainment factor” is “a nice distraction” for many people, agrees Meyer-Wölden. However, when it comes to more serious topics like relationships and children and you honestly communicate your own feelings, “then you also get support and encouragement from the people who listen to a podcast like this every week. I think that’s where people are too very sensitive.” Likes or friendly comments are nice, but you can’t just rely on them and you have to deal with everything yourself, is Pocher’s opinion: “In the end, I have to figure it out for myself.”

It felt right for her to make the relationship public, Meyer-Wölden explains later. “I’ll put it this way: I don’t regret it, I didn’t break up either. From my side, I would have liked to have continued. But sometimes the decision is made for you. And so I can only tell you: From my side I don’t regret anything, I would do it exactly the same way again.”

But she doesn’t want to talk about the exact reason for the end of love. He knows this one, reports Pocher and suggests: Meyer-Wölden is “a very strong personality with over 40 years of age and five children. And if there is another personality who is less strong with fewer children, then that is it Just something else. That’s basically what I told you. […] Anyone who has you as a partner has a certain overall package that they are buying into.” And you have to be able to deal with that.

Most people also cannot estimate what the life of a well-known person is like. “You just buy the entire package,” Meyer-Wölden also believes. And you also buy her ex Pocher. “The phrases and quips and jokes that you make, which are sometimes very, very funny, but can also be below the belt,” she has known for 15 years. “But if you’re new to this game, […] That’s it – I’ll put it this way: for a man, it can be annoying.”

Pocher’s criticism was: “He knew what he was getting into. […] You had enough time beforehand to simply say: ‘Oh, I’m not quite sure.'” When asked by Pocher whether she and her new ex can still remain friends, Meyer-Wölden is also not sure: “None Idea.”